Dockers How to Get the Raise

Stoked on more shout outs in both AdWeek and Editors Choice in AdAge Creativity for work on this Dockers 360 Flex Campaign.  When you do what you love, you never have to work a day in your life.

DOCKERS 360 Flex - How to Get the Girl.

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Dockers 360 Flex - How to Get the Raise - Editor's Choice AdAge Creativity

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Ripped Models Tease 'Puffy Baby Man' in Planet Fitness Comemrcial

I'm a sarcastic man, and so it's befitting that I always seem to enjoy working on comedy spots.  This "Puffy Baby Man" spot for Hill Holiday and Planet Fitness had me laughing every-time I received the dailies.

Stoked it see it get Editor's Pick on AdAge's Creativity.  Clearly, those with good taste appreciate sarcasm too. 

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by Ad Age's Creativity

Marriage Agenda (aka Coffee Break Agenda)

What is “Marriage Agenda”?

It’s a guide of practical questions and topics that spouses ask and answer surrounding the running of their household.

Who is it designed for?

For Married Couples, or those who are engaged to be married.


When could it be done?

It’s recommended to do a Marriage Agenda/Coffee Break Agenda weekly, preferably sometime in the first half of the week, to help define the coming week’s focus and goals.  It’s also ideal to do it consistently the same time and day every week.

Where could it be done?

It’s recommended to do in a public setting like a coffee shop or similar, since being surrounded by other people often helps keep ones emotional outbursts in check.  For those couples that have kids, the agenda can be easily accomplished at a park/playground while kids play in the peripheral.

Why do Marriage Agenda?

The marriage agenda questions are designed to allow the wife to give feedback to her husband, for the husband to give feedback to his wife, to release tension, resolve conflict, and for them to discuss and find solutions together to progress the family forward.  It’s intent is foster more healthy communication habits and allow a safe space and time to address concerns, with out fear of judgment.

How to do it?

It’s recommended that one spouse goes first and runs through all questions, while the other is listening, participating with answers, and taking notes on action items to do going forward.  Then, swap roles. It’s highly recommended to share a Trello board (available online and as a mobile app), Google Doc, or other means to track notes and feedback in a shared medium for easy future reference, and tracking of action items and goals.

Results.

Couples who implement Marriage Agenda weekly have said they argue and fight substantially less, because there is a weekly outlet that allows for healthy release of any emotional tensions.   If issues arise during the week, couples feel that because the weekly Marriage Agenda meeting is right around the corner, they can simply make a mental note of the issue to discuss it at the meeting, instead of derailing the emotional energy and mental focus of the moment. The conscious choice to discuss the issue later, could help the home environment stay emotionally healthier and more positive throughout the week.  


Marriage Agenda

Guidelines:

  • 3:1 positive to negative, praise to constructive criticism

  • Weekly 45min-60mins

  • Quarterly (once every 3 months) 3 hour in depth meeting


Questions:

  • What’s the intention and outcome of the meeting?

  • How am I doing on a scale of 1-10?

  • What are 2 things that could gets me from an X to a 10?

  • Are we spending enough quality time together?

  • Do you feel loved? (Husband asking wife) List a couple ways you feel loved.

  • Do you feel respected? (Wife asking husband) List a couple ways you feel respected.

  • What are you most excited by the future?

  • What are the strongest assets we have?

  • Any "do overs" from last week? (Was there something that could have been handled better?)

  • Any updates to the following areas:

    • Family Vision;  Where are we headed?  What’s our goals? and why? 

    • Financially/Business; What’s working? What needs to change?

    • Self Improvement/Relationship Development; What book titles have been recommended to us to read together on marriage, romance, financial, personal development, spirituality?

  • Schedule Awareness:

    • Trips; family events, dates, business, vacations, (discuss details).

    • Date ideas; preferences for weekly dates, plans for over night stay (away from kids). (discuss details)

    • Guys night out (discuss details).

    • Girls night out (discuss details).

    • Kids schedules;

      • Need to knows

      • Want to dos

      • School Project/Field trips

      • Goals & objectives

    • Plans with other family members (immediate & extended).

    • Plans with friends (other than family) What people/couples to invite out and spend time with. People with positive energy and encouraging attitudes that we can surround ourselves with.

  • Financial Awareness:

    • Review conscious spending plan & budget.

    • What’s our financial goals this month? this quarter? this year?

    • Are we on track to meet savings/investment goals?

    • Wish/Gift list ideas for her, for him, for kids.

  • Household needs:

    • Fix it list (“Honey do” List)

    • Big purchases

    • Weekly meal plan/shopping list

Quarterly Agenda

  • Run through Marriage Agenda.

  • Review 12 areas of life:

    • Health & Fitness

    • Intelligence

    • Emotional

    • Character

    • Spiritual

    • Love

    • Parenting

    • Social

    • Financial

    • Career

    • Quality of Life

    • Life Vision

  • Write out separately, then discuss together:

    • 2-3 things that are working in each area.

    • 1 thing that needs improvement in each area.

    • 1 thing or action item to do in each area.

  • Schedule; block out weekends first, annual traditions, holidays, family vacations, then schedule quarterly events.

  • Seal it with prayer.


 




Christ-like Cross Carry

Matt 16 context Jesus just basically slapped the Pharisees and Sadducees upside the head.

He warns the disciples to beware of the leaven of the religious.  (A little leaven leavens the whole lump.).

Peter confesses that Jesus is the Christ and Jesus says upon this rock  I will build my church.

 

Jesus then predicts his Death and resurrection, and he says in v21 that he would go to Jerusalem and suffer many things from the elders, chief priests, scribes, be killed, and then be raised on the third day.

 

Peter tells him no way, and Jesus rebukes him.

 

V24

“Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If anyone wants to come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life on account of me will find it.”

Matthew16:24-25LEB

http://bible.com/90/mat.16.24-25.leb

 

There's 3 things there, deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow Jesus.

 

“And whoever does not take up his cross and follow me is not worthy of me.”

Matthew10:38LEB

http://bible.com/90/mat.10.38.leb

 

There's a thought some have in the Christian human experience where they say something along the lines of... the cross carrying thing makes sense Jesus is saying you're going to have to suck it up, like He had to suck it up.  The burdens of the life that come your way, that "cross", just accept them, be a good soldier and carry that stuff onward.  The circumstances your facing just carry the heavy weight and push through it, like Jesus did... pick up that heavy thing and carry it on your back, Jesus had to do it, so... so do you.

 

This was some serious weight, jesus  had just predicted all the abuse and suffering he was about to face from the religious leaders.  Later he was in the garden before he was betrayed, sweating drops of blood, and he prayed "let this cup pass over me if possible, but nevertheless not my will but your will be done."

 

It's a lot of weight jesus carried, therefore you're going to have to carry some weight too...right?  Sounds like a good logical conclusion.

 

However, this creates an issue, as God can't contradict himself and just a few chapters earlier Jesus says;

 

“Take my yoke on you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to carry and my burden is light.””

Matthew11:29-30LEB

http://bible.com/90/mat.11.29-30.leb

 

Hmmmm.  Is Jesus speaking in parables again?  On one hand we have extreme weight to the point of sweating blood, and the other hand a burden that is easy and light.  Opposites.  Maybe the Bible is bull...

 

“He made the one who did not know sin to be sin on our behalf, in order that we could become the righteousness of God in him.”

2 Corinthians5:21LEB

http://bible.com/90/2co.5.21.leb

 

Exchange.  Jesus who had no sin, became sin.  He was spotless, but took our blemishes.  He had no disease, but he carried our disease, he no reason to fear, but carried our fears, he had no hurts, be he carried our hurts, our pains, all our burdens, and sorrows, he had no worry, but he carried our worries.  All our concerns, wrongs, bad attitudes, our gossip slander, our lack, every area we fall short or "Miss the mark", he hit the mark perfectly, and then he carried our short comings.

 

“who himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we may die to sins and live to righteousness, by whose wounds you were healed.”

1 Peter2:24LEB

http://bible.com/90/1pe.2.24.leb

 

“However, he was the one who lifted up our sicknesses, and he carried our pain, yet we ourselves assumed him stricken, struck down by God and afflicted. But he was pierced because of our transgressions, crushed because of our iniquities; the chastisement for our peace was upon him, and by his wounds we were healed.”

Isaiah53:4-5LEB

http://bible.com/90/isa.53.4-5.leb

 

Jesus' hands were empty.  He was blameless.  No blood on his hands.  But He took in his hands all our junk, and carried it.  He bore the burden on his own body and walked the junk to the crucifixion.  He wasn't carrying his own, for he was spotless, he carried stuff that belonged to someone else, he took it upon himself and carried it.  His cross wasn't weighted by his stuff or any of his own personal issues of life, his cross was weighted with someone else's stuff and someone else's burdens. 

Galatians. 3:13 "...he became a curse for us..."

 

If Someone takes a $100 bill from your hand and puts it in their pocket and walks off, you no longer have that $100 bill in your possession.  No matter what you think in your mind, no matter how many times you put your hand in your pocket to see if it's still there, that $100 is gone!  Means 2 things, the $100 is gone, and your hand which used to be holding a $100 is now empty.

 

Likewise, all the junk Jesus took from our hand, he bore on himself and destroyed it... the junk is no longer in our possession.  No more pet rocks.  We're not meant to carry a burden Jesus already bore.  It's a trick of the enemy to make us think we have to carry something that someone else already carried.  All the junk is gone, it's been exchanged.  Where disease was, now healing comes, where lack was now abundance comes, where sin was now righteousness (wrong choices now right choices), where fighting, fear anxiety, now comes peace, where sadness sorrow depression, now comes joy, where hatred and anger, now comes love, kindness, where self centered perspective, now comes a selfless perspective. 

 

So what does he mean then "deny yourself and carry your cross and follow him"? 

 

He means follow his MODEL.  Be Christ like, like how he took upon himself someone else's problems and burdens, you likewise, help someone else and bare their burdens... pick up the weight of what their going through and help them carry it to the foot of the cross and then point them to Jesus and what he did for them.

 

“Carry the burdens of one another, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

Galatians6:2LEB

http://bible.com/90/gal.6.2.leb

 

“We love, because he first loved us.”

1 John4:19LEB

http://bible.com/90/1jn.4.19.leb

 

Our "cross" is not our junk.  Jesus took care of our junk at his cross, so we could pick up our own "cross" and bare someone else's burden, like he did for us.  When we engage in that selflessness and "lay down our lives" and then demonstrate Gods love, we find life.  We find Purpose to help people ditch the junk and bring them into the kingdom by leading them to Jesus.

 

"...For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life on account of me will find it.”

Grace for Salvation & Empowerment

2 cor 12:9.  "My grace (power) is optimum when you face situations that are beyond what you can handle." 


In the book Relentless, John Bevere defines grace as "God's free empowerment that gives us the ability to go beyond our natural ability."  Which inspired some further exploration on the subject of "grace" as it pertains to the New Testament Christian faith.

Romans, 5:20 "...but where sin abounded, grace did much more abound."

Jesus said in Luke 7:47 "Therefore I say to you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven, for she loved much. But to whom little is forgiven, the same loves little.”

The bigger the debt, or sins, the bigger the grace that's displayed to forgive and cleanse it, and the greater the love and thankfulness the recipient should be for having received that mercy.

 

That same grace, that abolishes, eradicates that sin for us when we weren't saved and then made a decision for Christ, is the same grace that enables us after we are saved to do the impossible.

 

Grace for Salvation:

John1:17 "...grace and truth came by Jesus Christ". 

Ephesians 2:8 "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God"

 

Grace for Empowerment:

2 Cor 8 "And he said unto me, "My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness."" 

Romans 1:5 "Through him [Jesus] we received grace and apostleship..."

  Acts 6:8 "Now Stephen, a man full of God’s grace and power, performed great wonders and signs among the people." 

Ephesians 4:7 "But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it." 

Romans 6:14 "For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace." 

1 Pet 4:10 "Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms."

 

Example: The peeps that have had a radical salvation experiences, typically grab ahold of a deeper understanding of grace, because they have been forgiven of MUCH.  And just as much as they have been forgiven of much they then easily apply that "MUCH" without limit to their faith walk and start functioning with radical grace/power.  Like think of Todd White as an example of a very radical transformation, like a pendulum.  

Someone on the other hand, who has grown up in church, been exposed to religion, who has possibly lived even a clean, moral, and "good" life from the discipline and ethics imparted to them, is forgiven of little.  So they may have a harder time believing that same grace is capable of doing radical (impossible) stuff in them and through them.  They may never have experienced a "radical" salvation or encounter with God.  So, they may not have experienced that radical grace.  How do we equip ourselves regardless of our past, or depth of forgiveness in our salvation experience, to understand how powerful grace really is, and that it comes freely from God?

If we learn how to start a car engine, by placing the key in the ignition and then turning the key, then that knowledge of how it functions can be applied to starting other cars as well. We just have to recognize that we have the ability to apply that knowledge to other "cars" or circumstances.  Likewise, one who can ice skate well, can apply those skills to rollerblading well, and they transfer over almost seamlessly.

 

If we have enough faith to believe that we are saved by grace through Jesus.  If we really believe that Jesus annihilated our sin at the cross with His blood, and we're cleansed and free of it's death penalty.  If someone asked that as a question and we would publicity raise our hand, then we are confessing and revealing we believe in the power of His grace.  And we've also just revealed that we have enough faith to believe in a miracle, called salvation.  Likewise, Then we can also apply that same level of faith, and believe that by grace through Jesus we can remove unhealthiness, disease, from ours or someone else's physical body.  We can also believe that by grace through Jesus we can remove mental or psychological limitations, mentalities of lack, debt, victimization, etc.  We can  believe that by grace through Jesus we can see our lost loved ones saved.   We can believe that the things that seem impossible in our natural ability are possible.

We just need to take an action step of faith beyond our comfort zone and allow grace to do its work.  When that grace is manifested, it shows forth His power and we're to point to it and give Him praise and glory for it.

If we have enough faith, the size of a mustard seed, to believe for salvation... then we likewise have enough faith capacity to believe that impossible things to be possible and say to the mountain, be cast into the sea.